How to stop liking a guy

There are probably a million and one reasons to stop having a crush on someone. He could be married, a serial killer, your best friend’s dad or he doesn’t find you attractive in any way. Well, there are possibly more reasons, but I’d rather share based on personal experience.

We can’t choose who we like (no matter how hard we try with our insane list of characteristics we want in a man), but this time around I’ve come with a fail proof way to at least get rid of that little crush you may be harbouring on someone’s husband.

Out of sight, out of mind

If you don’t see him, you won’t like him. Not technically stop liking him immediately, but not being in such close proximity with the guy you have a crush on will help keep your mind off him. It’s like what you don’t see visually, you won’t think of. So keep those phones away.

Focus on his weak spot 

The problem with having a crush is we tend to put the guy on a pedestal. For example, if you have a crush on David Beckham. You are bound to think David is the hottest guy in the world who can do no wrong and would never break a girl’s heart. For all you know, David is an average Joe who can’t even pick up his own underwear.

So take a good look at your crush, find something irritating about him, like his wrinkles, his laugh or anything. One of my favourite things to do is remind myself that he’s not George Clooney. Focus on this and you’ll find yourself slowly stop liking him.

 Get busy 

And no, don’t get busy with the subject of your crush. What I mean is get more involved in extra activities, join a cause (support the fight against Domestic Violence or adopt stray animals), learn German (there are too many single German men out there who are willing to teach), or throw yourself into a beneficial project. When your schedule is packed, you won’t have any time to even consider having a crush.

Avoid anything that has to do with him

Don’t say his name, don’t talk about him, don’t talk to him, avoid anything that could possibly remind you of him. If he likes sports, go do ballet. At least it’s the complete opposite of what could remind you of him. 

Meet new people, flirt with new people

Go out, make new friends. There’s always a potential boyfriend material outside the circle you’re used to seeing. Don’t worry about it too much, it’s just a crush. There’s always a way around getting over one. XX